Breaking the Male Code Unlocking the Power of Friendship

I think it’s true that a lot of men don’t take close male person friends. A lot of married men don’t have close male friends that are independent from their married life. I don’t call up this is necessarily a trouble, but I remember that the author is right that a lot of men’s lives could exist greatly improved by having more real friendships with other men.

I don’t think I’ve ever subscribed to what the author calls the “male code.” If anything, I think that I have at times idea that there was something wrong with me for non wanting to follow the male code. My have away from this book is that perhaps I should be more confident in believing that in that location is something incorrect with other men following the male lawmaking, and perhaps I should be less defensive about my natural inclination to be the style this volume is telling men they should be.

There is a lot of applied advice in here about how to make friends and improve friendships. Some of that stuff seemed kind of obvious to me. Too, most of it seemed like it would exist true for men or women, not just men. I liked the idea that a friend is someone who stabs yous in the front. In other words, a truthful friend is someone who points out your flaws to your face and helps y’all deal with them, instead of ignoring them.

I remember there are other books in the tradition of Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People, that do a ameliorate chore of instruction the skill of making friends, but I don’t think that’s what this book is about. I remember this book is more most the need for men to change their mental attitude about the importance of maintaining male friendships. Male friendship is not just something you exercise for fun when you have free time. Male friends are of import in the aforementioned way that your wife, parents, siblings, children and profession are important. You need to strive to love your male friends in the same way.

I wonder if attitudes about male friendship are changing. It is at present common to come across “bromance” movies. I call back we may get to a point where this is something we take seriously and don’t but treat every bit a joke. Mayhap in the 21st century, men will first acting in a way that was common in the 19th century, when men wrote sincere, non-ironic, non-homosexual love letters to each other.

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The pressure that men experience in our world gives them feelings of isolation and many men do non know how to talk about how they are feeling and the things that carp them. I found Robert’due south approach to helping men to be insightful after he experienced problems with a move to a new metropolis, bug with his family and feeling iso

I want to thank Robert Garfield, author and Goodreads Start Reads Giveaway for my copy of
Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship
that I won in the Giveaway.

The pressure that men feel in our world gives them feelings of isolation and many men practice not know how to talk about how they are feeling and the things that bother them. I constitute Robert’s approach to helping men to exist insightful later on he experienced problems with a move to a new city, problems with his family and feeling isolated and alone. It is a powerful tool in helping others when yous have experienced similar experiences and understand the deep feelings men struggle with in our society. I enjoyed the book and loved the stories of the success of his patients and how he was able to help them.

As a kid development professional, I have seen the divergence expectations placed on both girls and boys from a very young age. As a order nosotros instill that males should be the stiff, protector and be able to endure pain on all levels to be perceived as masculine.

One of the most insightful teacher trainings I attended over the years was called the differences in encephalon chemical science between male and female children. Using cat scans children were asked to multitask and the girl’s scans showed lots of brain activity but the boy’southward scans were showing them doing one task later another simply not thinking about two at once. What this translated to in a relationship between a hubby and wife is that when a wife says, “I want you lot to go to the grocery store for bread, milk, butter, potatoes and ice cream. Then go get the dry cleaning and become to the hardware store for the hooks to hang the new moving-picture show, etc.” When the husband comes home with the hooks and forgets the balance it drive the wife crazy but he really didn’t hear the rest and it didn’t accomplish the function of his encephalon where he needed to go all that at once. Over 30-five twelvemonth of matrimony to a wonderful man, I take observed this more times than I can count. He also often says to me, “Merely tell me one thing at a time.” I have to remember that he thinks differently than I do and have what a practiced person he is and a good father and most of the time lots of fun, just non good at multitasking and sharing his feelings. Robert Garfield’due south book shows guys insights into sharing feelings and things that carp them in their daily lives and relationships.

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